Often times we have an idea of how our life is supposed to look like. We know what we want to do, who we are supposed to be with, how much money we are supposed to be making, how many kids we are supposed to be having. Or at least, we think we do. We think we know what we want. Until we don’t.
Until the day comes when our dreams shatter, our hopes crush right in front of us. What we thought was, all of a sudden no longer is. The person we want, no longer wants us. The job that we want, no longer needs us. The dream school that we so desperately want to get accepted into, no longer believes that we are the right fit.
Disappointments have a way of knocking us off course. They often times can be devastating. The reality is that we don’t always accomplish all that we set out to do. Our lives don’t always turn out the way we hoped they would. We dream of a relationship with a certain person, a career path, or a perfect family. And when those dreams don’t work out, we’re left to wonder:
Where do I go from here?
What do I dream of now?
Should I just give up?
We fall down, and we think that this is it. That failure is final. When In reality, your most recent failure is only a minor setback for a major comeback.
Maybe you’ve lost your way, buy you are not a lost cause. You’ve fallen, but you’re not a failure. Your past disappointments are not a projection of your future.
Often times when we don’t get what we want, or who we want, we think that our loss is irrecoverable. But what you need to understand is that behind that loss can be your greatest gain. What you thought was good, can be found better. What you thought was right for you, maybe was just right at the time.
When coping with loss and disappointment, you learn lessons you simply could not have learned any other way. That heartbreak you’re feeling? It’s helping you become better. It’s preparing you for what lies ahead.
I know you thought that thatperson was meant for you, that thatcareer was yours you succeed in. But we need to break up with the idea that we always know what is right for us. Because what we think is right for us today, may not be what is right for us tomorrow.
Sometimes you have to let go of what you’ve clung to in order to see life differently. Let go of your failures, let go of the person you’ve lost, let go of the life you thought you were meant to live. Let go of it all. Now take a step back and realize that there is something beautiful about it all. That there is beauty in devastation. You think your life is in turmoil, your dreams turned to ashes.
But just like a phoenix rises from its ashes, you have a chance to rise from yours as well. You have a chance to create new dreams and hopes from those ashes. A new beginning.
When we are faced with disappointment, we find out what we are really made out of. We find out what we really want in this life. What really matters. What no longer does. And what never really did.
You will come out of the other side of disappointment better, revived. A new you, a new beginning. Trust me that there is beauty in it all. And one day you will see it too.